It’s time for your seasonal Spring love tarot horoscopes – are you ready?

I am using the unique forecasting system from my upcoming Zodiac Love Match deck to give you a full and frank love forecast covering what you need to know.

This three-card oracle system explores who is on the cards (or who you need to be like in your existing relationship), the action or step you should take, and the future outlook.

The guidebook with the deck explains how to do this yourself so you can make your own love readings anytime, anywhere. Or, come join my magical, mystical tarot club, free for a whole month when you sign up using this link.

Aries

March 21 to April 20

Aries spring 2026 love life cards: Gemini, Power Couple, Set A Deadline

Meaning: Ready for a spark to be lit in your love life? A Gemini person or aura will enter the frame and bring fast-paced action, inspiring communication, new ideas and fresh thinking. It might feel like a total renewal of your relationship or feelings about love. For the better.

From here, you can build. And the potential to create a ‘power couple’ relationship, where you both build each other up, share resources and energy to create a greater whole than either could create solo, is unlocked. More than lovers, an alliance.

The key to this is setting deadlines, being aware of how much time you both have to spare/invest/share/create with. Time is the real currency of everything in life. With time, anything is possible. Spark things up, talk deeply, create an alliance, use your time together wisely. Anything is possible, aim high together.

Head here for everything you need to know about being an Aries

Taurus

April 21 to May 21

Taurus spring 2026 love life cards: The Ex, Don’t Drink The Poison, Fading Feelings

Meaning: Whatever you do this spring, Taurus, don’t return eagerly to either the presence or memory of an ex, or an old habit in love, that you know doesn’t serve you well and is not right for you. The past always carries allure, we all gloss over things and reposition ourself in a main character light.

Your love life past is not a place that merits a place in your present. It all served a purpose but don’t drink the Kool Aid that things were better then – that’s not Kool Aid, it’s poison! If you’re experiencing fading feelings or a sense of loss or confusion in your current relationship status then work on it in the present, don’t seek rescue or distraction or answers from the past.

The way ahead is built by looking ahead, not back. Be led by your best hopes, talk about whatever you’re feeling, ask for input, deal with what’s in front of you. Everything can get better in the future.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Taurus

Gemini

May 22 to June 21

Gemini spring 2026 love life cards: The Free Spirit, Pursue Passion, A Fun Fling

Meaning: All Geminis have a free-spirited approach to life, and love. That doesn’t mean you’re a cheater or unreliable, in fact Geminis are the most loyal sign going, and will do anything for folk they cherish, standing by them in all weathers. What it means is that you bring fun, openheartedness and spontaneity to your love life, which partners get to enjoy.

Pursue passion this spring, Gemini, be it in your relationship or your single life. Make things light and fun. Nothing wrong with dating up a storm and a fun fling or two, and nothing wrong with bringing the notion of a ‘fun fling’ into your existing relationship if you’re attached — a long weekend away together, date nights every week, more emphasis on your physical relationship and anticipating your time together as you did in the early days.

Reinstate the sense of ‘we do what we like’ and follow your passions wherever they lead. Spring is a time to be abundant, light, and open-minded. Embrace that energy.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Gemini

Cancer

June 22 to July 23

Cancer spring 2026 love life cards: The Free Spirit, Pause and Reflect, A Tended Garden

Meaning: Life’s short. Time is your greatest currency, so spend it wisely. Look around you at your relationships and figure out, if you were a total free spirit with all chores and commitments aside, where you get the most reward and fulfilment. Pause and reflect. Don’t just go through the motions, retread the same ground, fall into ruts and patterns with folk, play the same game you always have.

Stop and think about your love life, your family realm, your friendships. What’s working and what isn’t? Spring is your season for getting everything on track again — a tended garden in full bloom. Might need some pruning, cutting back, replacement, nurturing and feeding, encouragement and attention. Make a plan, put it in motion. New habits will yield new results.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Cancer

Leo

July 24 to August 23

Leo spring 2026 love life cards: Aquarius, Serve The Relationship, A Fun Fling

Meaning: Aquarius is your opposite sign, so this card suggests either a hook-up with your ‘opposites attract’ person this spring (which will be very interesting) or a sense that your approach, needs and love language is reversing, shifting, changing totally. And that’s okay.

Serving your relationship, vs yourself, is the key. We are all different people to different people in our lives, and each new relationship unlocks another aspect of our personality. Chemistries change and evolve. Notice this and let it unfold, let yourself change and be changed by someone else.

Maybe it’s not your actual partner or love interest that changes you, maybe it’s a fun friendship/fling/intense moment with someone fleetingly. People make their mark on us in all kinds of ways, and you will know when this is happening to you. Take the lesson or input, use it, evolve with it.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Leo

Virgo

August 24 to September 23

Virgo spring 2026 love life cards: Scorpio, Give In To Desire, Fading Feelings

Meaning: Maybe a sexy, dark and dangerous Scorpio is on the cards for you this spring, Virgo, which would certainly spice things up! Or maybe it’s you who is feeling super spicy and like you wish to fully and wholly give in to your desires, letting your pleasures and heartfelt yearnings lead you to the next phase of your love life’s story. And if so, do it.

We are all lustful, animalistic, physical beings and these strong urges are valid, useful and affirming – they are letting you know who and what you’re most attracted to. Why fight it?

Maybe you’re experienced fading feelings in love recently, felt like you’re going through the motions, or keep meeting the same obstacles or ‘type’. Let all of that go, let all of that wash away into the past. Resolve, from now on, to follow your heart, your yearning, your desire, and you won’t go far wrong. This is your love life sat nav and it’s designed just for you.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Virgo

Libra

September 24 to October 23

Libra spring 2026 love life cards: Gemini, Manifest Your Life, Burning Passion

Meaning: Ideas are your catnip, your passion sparker, your favourite way to connect with someone, and that is what spring will bring to your love life. A like-minded, airy, clever, analytical person with whom you can discuss anything and everything, and with whom you can sound board your own creations and opinions, and invent different angles and perspectives on life. Bliss!

They could be a Gemini, but if you’re happily attached then it’s conversation, dialogue and talking about weird subjects from weird angles that will unlock this happy state. Discover your shared burning passions, talk about what you wish to manifest in your lives, make wishes, feed back on the path you think the other should take, tell them how you see them as a person, open up analysis and discussion about the future.

When you’re enthralled mentally, all the other areas follow suit. You could definitely fall in love with a person’s mind and this will be demonstrated and proven to you this springtime, and it’s conversation and dialogue that unlocks the whole chapter. Talk it up!

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Libra

Scorpio

October 24 to November 22

Scorpio spring 2026 love life cards: Capricorn, Take The Crown, Solitude

Meaning: Your relationship realm is asking you to take responsibility for the energy, effort and investment you put into it. Nothing can stand alone, carried by one person. A true bond is mutual, equally supported, and built together.

The Capricorn card could suggest a new suitor of that sign (and this gives real ‘power couple’ vibes) or just this effort and dedication you’re going to overtly prove and demonstrate to your loved one. They need to hear you say it out loud! Take the crown and wear it well, take ownership, lead the way, guide your partner through your hopes, dreams and fears, take responsibility for making them feel good, understood, and trusted.

Open up. Solitude is a state we all need to feel comfortable with, because ultimately we have to bear our own peace of mind. Your partner can’t be there 24/7 or tend to your every need… give them space, give yourself the gift of your own company, and let this relationship breathe too. It’s a balancing act of giving more when you’re present, and being happier in your own company when you’re not.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Scorpio

Sagittarius

November 23 to December 21

Sagittarius spring 2026 love life cards: The Soul Mate, Say Goodbye, A Tended Garden

Meaning: You have a soul mate in your realm, be that your current partner or a person waiting in the wings for their chance, which will unfold this spring. It may mean saying goodbye to someone or something else.

You carry so many options and juggle so many balls! Prioritising people, a person in particular, is hard for you because you love to feel free and available to do whatever comes your way. But partners need to feel like number one in your life. Are you ready for that? If so, you can create a beautiful private realm with your soul mate, nurturing a tended garden where you both roam, feel safe, and build beautiful moments together.

The relationship in question is a shared venture, a join project, a thing you both ‘serve’ (vs just serving yourselves), and if treated in this honourable way, it can flourish, bloom and bring great joy to both of your lives. It needs to be a priority.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Sagittarius

Capricorn

December 22 to January 21

Capricorn spring 2026 love life cards: Leo, Do The Groundwork, Smooth Sailing

Meaning: You take great pride in your home, your family and your close relationship/s. Partnership is a sacred entity in your realm and you serve your loved ones well. A Leo sense of leadership, pride and regality is with you — folk are looking up to you, seeking your protection, asking for guidance, copying your lead. So, be the King or Queen you truly are!

Smooth sailing in your relationship realm comes from doing the groundwork, looking after the details, correcting the small issues before they get bigger, nipping disagreements in the bud sooner vs later.

If you’re single, maybe a Leo partner is on the cards this spring. Someone whom you gel with immediately and can quickly create a shared kingdom in which to play, love, develop and build. You always favour an ally as well as a lover, you want someone to build and share a wonderful life with. You deserve this.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Capricorn

Aquarius

January 22 to February 19

Aquarius spring 2026 love life cards: Pisces, A Tended Garden, Align Future Goals

Meaning: Peace and harmony are the key themes of your spring love life story. But that doesn’t mean passivity or total quiet, to tend your relationship garden, work is needed. Things need pruning, snipping, nurturing, moving to the light, feeding and arranging.

The undercurrent of this work is about aligning your future goals with your partner. Talking about what’s happening in your lives this year and beyond, what ambitions you carry, what you can do together and what is a solo mission, but needs support and understanding.

Get it all out on the table. Examine the pieces, it’s like a jigsaw puzzle, if you can put it together, together, you’ll both be in synch. A Piscean vibe of wisdom, kindness and deep caring settles over you both when this work is done. And… if you’re single, maybe it’s a Pisces person who’s going to enter your life this spring and become a life partner in all arenas of your realm. A true ally.

Head here for everything you need to know about being an Aquarius

Pisces

February 20 to March 20

Pisces spring 2026 love life cards: Virgo, Unlock New Insight, Uncharted Territory

Meaning: Definitely ‘opposites attract’ chemistry swirling around you this spring — maybe literally with your opposite sign of Virgo, maybe by taking a new route, direction, outlook or mindset with your current partner. Be different. Seek different. Act different.

Unlocking new insight is probably one of the most valuable things a relationship can gift to us; the ability to see the world through another’s perspective. Rarely do we get that chance, except through folk we trust and are close to.

You are heading into uncharted territory with someone, maybe more commitment or more intensity or more unique chemistry than you’ve ever experienced before. Don’t get jumpy or nervous, stick with it, because this is growth, this is life changing even. Let them show you how they see the world. It will change everything.

Head here for everything you need to know about being a Pisces

Kerry King has been reading, teaching and creating tarot for 30 years. Join her magical, exclusive Tarot Club for forecasts, predictions, lessons and readings straight to your inbox. Enjoy one month free for all Metro readers (no lock-in or commitment) over on Patreon.

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Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. It’s a phrase most people in the dating pool have encountered at one point or another.

Three decades on from when John Gray’s seminal work was first published, this sentiment still seems to resonate with fatigued dating app users who just can’t seem to get on with their matches.

Forbes reports that 78% of people who use ‘the apps’ to find love feel emotionally, mentally or physically exhausted by the process, while 41% have been ghosted, and 40% say they struggle to connect.

Women are also more likely to be fed up with it than men (80%, compared to 74%), which certified sex therapist, Dr Rufus Tony Spann, puts down to the constant cycle of raised hopes before a promising prospect ends up falling flat.

Now, though, there looks to be an explanation for this crisis of connection and commitment – and it’s nothing to do with the technology itself.

According to a previous report from Feeld, the problem is actually straight, millennial men.

The 2025 study of the dating app’s 2,500 members revealed nearly seven in 10 heterosexual men aged 29 to 44 have either never updated or rarely update their dating app profile since they first filled it out.

So, even if they’ve been swiping for a few years now, their profile picture might still be the same as when they first logged in. And these snaps can be questionable to start with, as evidenced by the ‘man holding fish’ trope’s refusal to die out, despite women’s pleas.

On the contrary, women are much more likely to change their bio over time (27.8% have done so since downloading the app).

In fact, millennial women are making tweaks to their profiles the most, and they’re more likely to do so if they identify as queer, pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, or bisexual (89%, that is).

For women, updates are important in helping to pre-empt common questions asked by their matches, and to lay down the law on their deal-breakers, something that men are 2.6 times less likely to do.

Men also seem reluctant to put the miles in for love, consistently choosing shorter maximum match distances (which they’re more likely to tweak over time), while women maintain higher distance preferences regardless of how often they tweak their search settings.

Essentially, the numbers suggest that they’re not putting in the graft.

‘When you’re trying to figure out who is most likely to sit in each of these categories, it’s not so much sexual orientation or age or geography – the clearest pattern comes down to gender,’ dating expert and journalist Mona Chalabi said of the research.

‘People who identify as men change their search settings more, and women spend more time changing their profiles. 

‘When I first looked at those findings, I sighed. I wondered if men are more inclined to believe that there’s something wrong with their environment, whereas women are more inclined to think there’s something wrong with themselves.’

But as Mona noted, there’s a multitude of reasons for this gender split. First of all, she pondered whether perhaps women are simply ‘really clear about what they want, and don’t want to change their search preferences.’

There’s also the possibility that their lives are more dynamic, and are subsequently changing more frequently, in ‘more exciting ways than they want to describe in their bios,’ she said.

‘Whatever the reasons are, most of us don’t simply sign up and search,’ she concludes.

‘Almost 90% of us change our bios at some point after we join the site, and 92% change our search settings.

‘Because good connections require luck and a bit of effort—most of us know that means a little tinkering now and then.’

This article was first published on December 5, 2025.

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One of the fun things about Netflix’s docuseries Love On The Spectrum is that the show’s producers identify participants that are fan favorites and decide to follow up with them in subsequent seasons, whether they’re still looking for love or are in a relationship. Season 4 finds all of the returnees in relationships, with three new singletons being introduced.

Opening Shot: As with the other seasons of Love On The Spectrum, that season’s participants sit down and say hello to the producers and crew, then they’re asked what love means to them.

The Gist:  Also as with the second and third seasons of the U.S. version of Love On The Spectrum, the show follows around some returning cast members and some new singles looking to start relationships. All of the people being followed are on the autism spectrum, and have expressed a desire to find love but have had difficulty because of their neurodivergent natures.

The people returning are all in some stage of a relationship. There’s Abbey and John — who are basically the Lauren and Cameron of Love On The Spectrum — giving updates. John (not Abbey’s John, but the one from Boston with curly hair), who’s been around since Season 1, has finally found someone in Shelley (who is blonde, by the way). Connor, whom we started following in Season 2, is dating Georgie, but is concerned that her feelings for him run hot and cold. And Madison from Season 3 has been happily dating Tyler, and their relationship has gotten to the point where Madison has decided to move to an apartment in Florida with her brother Parks in order to be closer to her man.

Of course, there are always new single people to follow. Logan, 25, lives in Las Vegas with his mother and twin sister. He likes watching videos of toy trains crashing or falling into water; if the engine has a face like Thomas the Tank Engine, all the better. He goes with his sister to pick a jacket for his first-ever date, and picks a slick blue-velvet number.

Emma, 22, goes to a school for neurodivergent young adults in Utah, and is very outgoing. She definitely has had her crushes over the years. Religion is important to her, and she wants to meet a fellow member of the Church of Latter-Day Saints. We see her go on a date with Austin in Park City, and when she says conversation is important to her, we hear him say “Yeah” and not much more.

We don’t see much of Dylan, 22, in the first episode. He lives in Los Angeles with his mother and cat Oreo, and he is looking for his own Princess Fiona, like Shrek did in one of his favorite movies.

What Shows Will It Remind You Of? There aren’t really many shows like Love On The Spectrum, except for the original Love On The Spectrum Australia, which was from the same production team.

Our Take: One of the things we always appreciate about Love On The Spectrum is that the producers of the show treat the participants with the utmost respect. Yes, they show there is awkwardness on dates, and sometimes that awkwardness is played up a bit, even though difficulty reading social cues is a big part of many of the participants’ neurodivergence. Still, you can tell that they are being supportive of the participants and not exploitative. There’s a reason why participants come back for multiple seasons, even after finding a relationship.

We are happy that the experiences that returnees John, Conner and Madison have gone through when they were single have led them to being in mostly solid relationships, and it’s fun to watch them navigate the usual ups and downs of being in one. It’s especially gratifying to see John in a relationship, given that he’s been trying since the show started, and was the most socially awkward of the original group.

His experience is paralleled in Logan’s story, even though Logan is much younger than John was when he joined the show. In the second episode, the show’s dating expert, Jennifer Cook, pays him a visit and tells him that he should talk to his date about what she likes, “and a little bit about what you like, too.” It seems like obvious advice, but even neurotypical singles don’t adhere to it; imagine how tough it is for someone who can easily take a verbal deep dive into a subject without realizing how bored the other person is.

Performance Worth Watching: We enjoyed meeting Emma, who is probably the most outgoing participant since Abbey in Season 1. Her presence certainly shows that neurodivergence is not a monolith, which is always helpful to show viewers who may not be familiar with how autism presents is unique to the individual.

Sex And Skin: Some kissing, but that’s about it.

Parting Shot: After a romantic Valentine’s Day dinner of McDonald’s cheeseburgers and fries, Tyler sits Madison down and says he wants to give her something. She thinks “a question is going to be popped,” but we’ll have to go to the next episode to see what Tyler has in mind.

Sleeper Star: All of the parents and family members — or in Emma’s case, roommates — are putting in yeoman’s work supporting their loved one’s dating journeys.

Most Pilot-y Line: The awkwardness of Emma’s date is played up a bit, given what we said above.

Our Call: STREAM IT. Love On The Spectrum continues to balance giving viewers updates on the love lives of fan-favorite participants while introducing viewers to new people trying to find love.

Joel Keller (@joelkeller) writes about food, entertainment, parenting and tech, but he doesn’t kid himself: he’s a TV junkie. His writing has appeared in the New York Times, Slate, Salon, RollingStone.com, VanityFair.com, Fast Company and elsewhere.

Welcome to How I Do It, the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger.

This week, we hear from Tammy*, a 43-year-old working in the media, who met her now-boyfriend Charles* three months ago.

Enticed by his good looks, charm, and intelligence, Tammy quickly fell for the 65-year-old, but there’s just one problem: his ‘revolting’ nightshirt.

Charles’ refusal to part ways with his pyjama shirt is a major turn-off for Tammy, and it’s causing her to question the relationship.

‘I have a healthy sex drive and in my last relationship my partner and I usually had sex twice a day,’ she says. ‘We both worked from home and we were always heading back to the bedroom.

‘However, with Charles, although I stay over three or four nights a week, we have not yet had sex.’

Tammy can see potential in Charles, but this lack of sex has left her feeling unhappy in her relationship. ‘It’s making me understand why people have affairs.’

Without further ado, here’s how Tammy got on this week…

The following sex diary is, as you might imagine, not safe for work.

I wake up influencer-orange from doing my tan the night before. After breakfast I go for a swim and have an everything shower. This takes about three hours and I spend the rest of the day doing my hair and make-up.

I work from home, so I answer the odd email, but I’m getting ready to spend the weekend with Charles. I want to look fabulous, so that’s my priority.

I arrive at his at 7pm, in an Uber he’s sent for me. We enjoy a G&T before heading next door for a soiree at his neighbour’s house. There are 12 of us, including a couple who’ve recently moved into the square.

The woman is pretty and when Charles meets her, he practically forgets who I am. He says: ‘This is…….’ Then there’s a long awkward silence where my name should be until I step in and introduce myself. I let it go.

Charles has an eye for pretty women and quite frankly I find it rude. 

As usual, I wake up by myself and open the bedroom door only to be hit by a fog of cigar smoke. Charles gets up at around 5am, so by this point he’s been smoking for over three hours.

I march about briskly opening windows as Charles complains about the cold, and I remind him that I didn’t choose to have a relationship with a smoker. He lied about his smoking on Hinge, as well as claiming he was 50(15 years younger than he actually is).

I suppose this explains his struggles with erectile dysfunction, although I’ve never brought it up with him, but funnily enough this is not the biggest barrier to us having sex.

The most insurmountable issue is that he comes to bed dressed like Wee Willie Winky. Yes, he actually wears a nightshirt. I did not even know they existed outside of the Dickens film that’s on at Christmas, but somehow Charles has located one, perhaps by robbing the grave of someone buried in the Edwardian era.

The one thing worse than seeing him walk into the bedroom wearing it, is seeing him sit about in it all morning. It revolts me and I can barely look at him until nearly 11am, when he finally has a shower and gets dressed.

When he’s in a nice shirt and chinos with a cashmere jumper, I do find him attractive, he’s a handsome man. He’s over 6ft with the sort of bone structure most usually seen in the society pages of Tatler.

Seeing him like this, I definitely would, so I slip his hand inside my bra, hoping to excite him. I’m not sure if his ED is affected by his drinking, so I try to ignite the spark before he has alcohol in his bloodstream.

Charles is a big drinker, at the weekend he’ll start drinking before midday.

My efforts at putting his hand on my breast lead nowhere as he tells me I’m in the way of the television. He’s watching Formula 1.

We open a bottle of wine with lunch, so there’s no chance now, but the motorsports must have jacked up his testosterone levels as he tells me he’ll give me ‘a damn good f***ing’. I wish he would.

It used to excite me when he said things like this, but seeing as he’s never done it, I no longer believe him. It’s like Del Boy in Only Fools and Horses saying: ‘This time next year we’ll be millionaires.’ Ironically, Charles is a millionaire, but I despair of ever again getting a good d**king.

Friends are coming over for lunch and Charles reminds me how much he likes it when I am affectionate towards him in front of other people.

I can’t even deal with dissecting this so I just say: ‘OK darling!’ I give him a little kiss and make a mental note to ramp up the PDA when the guests arrive.

I must do a good job because one of them says: ‘Awww! You guys are so cute!’

And actually, we are a good match in a lot of ways. 

As well as being well-educated, Charles has impeccable manners and he’s very thoughtful. He’s the kind of man who takes care of things and I feel like I’m in safe hands when I’m with him.

Plus, penetrative sex isn’t everything, and Charles did go down on me twice last night. I prefer this anyway. If I had to choose between penetrative sex and receiving oral, I would definitely choose receiving oral. I just wish he would do it more often.

I didn’t actually want it the second time – I was tired and I wanted to go to sleep. However, I think he felt a surge of male pride at making my legs shake as I orgasmed and he wanted to do it again for the applause. 

It’s gone 9pm by the time the last guest leaves. We’re both tired by then, but Charles loads the dishwasher and we watch a bit of Top Gun 2 on the telly.

Monday

I wake up and walk into the sitting room where Charles is chain-smoking his miniature cigars, dressed in his ancient artefact. It’s like he’s cosplaying a Jane Austen character.

I want to tell him: ‘The V&A called – the costume curator wants their 18th century exhibit back’, but I bite my tongue.

He announces: ‘I was rock hard last night! Rock hard!’

He sounds extremely proud of himself, but unfortunately his claim bears no relation to reality. What actually happened is that he poked his semi-flaccid penis at me in the night and I ignored him until he stopped bothering.

You might imagine I’d be pleased at the prospect of having sex, and perhaps even helped matters along. However, the image of his ‘Tiny Tim’ nudging a molehill in his nightshirt makes me queasy.

I hate the idea of him hitching up his nighty and there’s no way I am putting my hand up there. I just won’t do it. I know he’s naked underneath, only because I see his boxers on the bathroom floor, and I don’t know why he can’t wear those to bed instead. 

Charles is working from home today and he wants me to stay and work from his, but I tell him I can’t concentrate so he orders me an Uber. At home I unpack then tackle my inbox before doing yoga.

I’m so happy to be sleeping by myself in my own bed. I love showering then getting into a freshly changed bed, with crisp clean sheets.

Charles’ cleaner changes his bed on a Monday morning, and I typically stay with him on Friday, Saturday and Sunday night, so his bed’s never freshly changed when I’m there.

But it’s the nightshirt that makes the bed manky. I hate it – the fact that it’s always the same grubby garment disgusts me.

My revulsion is skyrocketing, but picking my battles, I decide I might be more able to stomach him wearing a nightshirt if it’s new, and clean on, rather than a dirty old dishcloth that I wouldn’t even use on the floors.

If I buy him a stack of new ones, he can always wear a clean one to bed. But aside from getting in a time machine and traveling back to 1840, where would I even find nightshirts?

I put these thoughts aside as I have a celebrity to interview for a newspaper. I spend the morning prepping, and afterwards I go to the gym.

I’ve spent the day wracking my brains, and all I can think of is an Ebeneezer Scrooge halloween costume. I find loads of them online, modelled by unpleasant old men.

The costumes come in synthetic fabrics with a range of accessories including fake candles, night caps and walking sticks. Although this is an amusing bonus, I’m unwilling to subject myself to a polyester-clad bed partner. Surely there must be nightshirts in natural fibres?

I have a flash of inspiration and turn to a forum on Reddit, where there is indeed a thread on men’s nightshirts. The original poster has asked if anyone wears them so I sift through the replies.

These include: ‘I think that was five generations back from anyone alive today lol’ and ‘Good lord, honey, we weren’t pioneers.’

With no pointers from Reddit, I’ve hit a dead end. I think about this as I transcribe yesterday’s interview. It takes all day but I prefer to do it myself as I don’t trust AI transcription services. In the evening I go for a run and head to bed.

I bite the bullet and call Charles to let him know I’m looking for new nightshirts for him. ‘Why?!’ he snaps.

I want to tell him: ‘Because it’s disgusting!’. However, in an effort to help him understand, I say: ‘Well, you wouldn’t wear the same shirt to work each day, would you?’

‘I wash it,’ he declares. ‘How often?’ I ask, gently.

I know his answer of every other day sadly isn’t true. He just hangs it back up on a hook on the door, with the rip in the cuff confirming that it is indeed the same old rag that he wears night after night.

Wary of arguing, I let it drop, but he later WhatsApps me saying: ‘I’ve bought four for £16 on Amazon.’

This is a miracle. Charles has Amazon Prime so maybe they’ll even be there when I go over tomorrow. As unsavoury as it is seeing him come to bed looking like a relic from Victorian times, at least he won’t be marinating in the same filthy fabric each night.

I stay in this relationship because Charles has some amazing qualities, and we have a shared love for entertaining at lunches and suppers, but now, if I’m feeling less repulsed by his nightshirts, who knows what this could do for our sex life, too.

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Dear Eric: I have a friend that I generally enjoy spending time with, however she feels the need to constantly put into the conversation how great she is. I call it “Tooting Your Own Horn.” She can be very dramatic in general; I usually just don’t engage with those comments, because giving it air would be validating her grandiose ideas of her own self-worth.

The thing is, she’s not a bad person, and will definitely be there if you need her, but this constant self-promotion is very off-putting. Calling her out directly would make her angry and defensive, because she is, after all, the best.

Do you have any suggestions on how to deal with this type of behavior? Avoiding her isn’t an option.

— Tired of It

Dear Tired: You wrote that you generally ignore her grandiose statements and that might continue to be the best course of action if you enjoy your friend’s other aspects and don’t want to talk to her about it. You might also reframe these statements in your mind. It’s quite possible that she feels the need to toot her own horn because of some deeper insecurity. Maybe she feels she needs to call herself great because she secretly believes she isn’t.

Or maybe she’s just conceited. Or has high self-confidence. Whatever the reason, one tactic is to remind yourself, “this is something she needs to do; it doesn’t have any bearing on me.” It won’t completely prevent it from being annoying, but it may lessen its impact on your relationship.

Another option is to approach this habit with curiosity. The next time she toots her own horn, you can ask about it instead of ignoring it. “I’ve noticed you make comments about that a lot. Have you noticed that, too? Can you tell me what it’s about?”

Dear Eric: I’m a 54-year-old divorced dad. I was dating a woman for just over six months. In a lot of ways, it was the healthiest relationship I’ve had in a long time. We had strong alignment on the “big things” (values, lifestyle, interests, chemistry, kindness). We supported each other through real-life stuff, and I genuinely felt we were building something solid.

Then it ended very suddenly.

On a Tuesday morning, she texted that she was “having doubts” and that things had been “building up.” We talked the next morning and she said, “the little things became bigger than the big things.” She listed several specific issues — my house (decor/cleanliness), my sense of humor (I’m playful; she’s more serious), worries about travel because I have teenage boys, and concerns about finances/retirement stability.

What I’m struggling with isn’t that she had concerns. It’s that I didn’t know they had grown into deal-breakers, and there was no “work on it together” phase. It felt like she quietly decided, then delivered the verdict. When we met one last time, she was worried I’d try to convince her; I told her I wasn’t. I just wanted to be heard and to understand. It still felt final and shut down.

Here’s where I’m stuck: I still care about her. I’m also hurt and honestly shocked at how quickly she cut it off given how good it felt overall.

Is there any healthy reason to reach out again, or is the kindest thing (to both of us) to let it be? How do you get closure when someone ends a relationship quickly and you never really get to talk through it?

— Sleepless in Louisville

Dear Sleepless: This is a really tough way to be broken up with. It often feels quite unfair. However, the issue that makes this breakup sudden and painful is the same issue that can lead to unhappiness in on-going relationships: an inability on the part of one or both people to communicate with openness and vulnerability.

So, without a track record or playbook for clear communication, I worry that any further contact is going to just hurt you more, rather than give you the closure you seek. Closure is, itself, a form of communication.

Dear Eric: I’m 35 years old with a dad who is 67. We talk frequently about business, sports and politics. We talk just by ourselves and as a group with my wife and mother.

The issue is that my dad asks me questions that are simple to look up online. They very often do not relate to the conversation and are silly.

I have brought up my issue with him doing this before and his response is “it gives us something to talk about” and that there would be nothing to talk about if we lived by the motto “don’t ask it if you can find the answer on Google.”

He has the newest iPhone and knows how to use it well. When he asks me questions, if I don’t know the answer, I google it and share, but I get frustrated. After one or two times I get short and want to end the conversation quickly. Any advice to make our conversations more stress free is much appreciated.

— Not Google

Dear Not Google: Flawed though his methods may seem, I think your dad’s heart is in the right place and I’d encourage you to think about it in a different way. Though you have a good conversational relationship, there’s still clearly something in him that feels the need to add more material to keep the conversation going. Maybe it’s something that’s really lacking in your talks, maybe it comes from an insecurity that he has. It’s not for me to say. But try to think of these questions as offerings. He wants to engage with you, and that’s a gift.

Now, not all gifts are what we want, exactly. See if you can find some interest in the search for answers. Try asking him questions about the results or ask him to find it and inform you instead. There’s also something to be said for a long deep dive into Wikipedia. A simple question like “Who was Princess Grace of Monaco married to?” can lead to all manner of other factoids and curiosities. So, maybe the next time he asks, give him the simple answer and follow-up with some trivia that fascinates you.

Most importantly, however, every time you find yourself getting annoyed, see if you can reframe the request in your mind. It may help if you think of every benign question as a way of your father saying, “I like talking to you and I want to keep doing it.”

Dear Eric: My 98-year-old father is living with dementia. Because it isn’t advanced, he is painfully aware that his memory is failing him. He often recounts things — past and present — that aren’t true. Following advice from the Alzheimer’s Association, our immediate family practices “therapeutic fibbing”: we accept whatever he says as fact to preserve his dignity.

It’s a difficult tightrope to walk, but the hardest part isn’t the caregiving — it’s the silence. Several of Dad’s lifelong friends have stopped calling. I think they feel uncomfortable with the conversations, which, in all honesty, are not always easy. He misses them and has begun to worry he did something wrong to drive them away.

My gut tells me to call these friends and give them a piece of my mind. I’d rather they skip his eventual funeral and just give him five minutes of their time now. Since “shaming” them probably isn’t the best strategy, how can I encourage these old friends to re-engage with a man who needs them now more than ever?

I am hopeful that my Dad’s friends, or others, read this column as a wakeup call to reach out to those who may be suffering in similar situations

Dear Eric: My husband has two sisters. One sister’s adult son and daughter have always been mean to me. It started when the niece and my son by my first marriage dated about five times. She talks negatively about everyone and everything.

He also told me he did not want to cause any family problems, but he also did not want to date her. I told him, do what you need to do as far as dating.

Now 20 years later, she and her brother are still rude and condescending toward me.

The last time I saw them at a funeral, I invited the nephew to come and visit. He replied, “it will never happen.” It hurts.

I have spoken to my husband about their behavior. He just says we will have nothing to do with them. His sister, their mother, has passed but now we will be seeing them at a family funeral. I dread going. I would rather stay home.

My husband insists I go. It’s a four-hour drive. Should I ask them to walk outside and try to find out why they are so mean? Or should I keep ignoring them? I only see them every couple of years.

— Talked About Aunt

Dear Aunt: If you choose to go to the funeral to support your husband, you don’t have to engage with the adult children who have been unkind to you. It takes a lot of energy for them to hold such a deep grudge over a failed relationship (if one can call five dates that). That’s clearly an engine that is going to run whether you put gas in it or not.

At this point, it’s probably wise to chalk this up to a “them problem.” I know it hurts to be condescended to, but I think you’ll be setting yourself up for more hurt by trying to push a conversation, especially since they have so far resisted having one.

Since you don’t have to see them very much outside of this funeral, try as best you can to put them and this relationship out of your mind. Some people just don’t mix, and, from your telling, you have nothing to make amends for. Best to just say, “I’m sorry for your loss” and then go be with people who respect you — your husband, his second sister, and others.

Dear Eric: I have been best friends with “Vera” for more than 35 years. She was a great support when I went through a divorce in my late 30s and always was insightful. Throughout our friendship she was always trying to “help” everyone and in the majority of cases it was unsolicited and unwanted.

Over the years, I have watched her friends distance themselves by severely limiting how often they interact with Vera. Several of her siblings are a mess and she has always bailed them out.

I am now almost 68 years old and Vera has worn me out. I found that if I speak with her more often than every five to six weeks, she cannot control herself and offers unsolicited advice and suggestions.

I have to mentally prepare myself prior to calling. I no longer share personal information because she wants to dissect and insert herself. I have very clearly told her to back off with the advice. She thinks I am angry. I’ve explained I am very annoyed that she cannot or will not respect that I don’t need “fixing”.

In spite of me clearly and repeatedly telling her if I would like her advice, I will ask but would just prefer an “ear”.

I’m at the point where I am seriously considering letting this friendship fade away. What to do?

Dear Eric: Our son, who is in college, began losing his hair in high school. It could be genetic, but this does not run in the family. Although he is skinny, he eats terribly. He fills up on junk food, juice and soda. Sometimes he eats nothing.

When he lived at home, I could influence at least some of what he ate, but he always denied there was anything wrong. His pediatrician (male, for what it’s worth) always dismissed my concerns. I helped him find a new doctor when he turned 18 but now that he’s an adult, there is even less I can do.

We know that he is unhappy with how he looks. My husband has tried to talk to him gently about speaking with his doctor specifically about his hair and its connection to his diet and potentially an underlying health problem. On a side note, our son has occasionally seen a counselor at school about unrelated issues, when we suggested it, so he does not always reject our advice out of hand, like he does with this.

If he liked the way he looks, and if it were totally clear that this isn’t a health issue, we would leave it alone. But given the circumstances, do we need to leave it alone anyway?

— Concerned Mother

Dear Mother: Right now, the most supportive thing you can do for your son is continuing to listen to him and provide help when asked for. He’s on a journey with his body — as we all are. And while there are a variety of hair treatments available and many different resources for getting help with one’s diet, he has to learn to be proactive about them if he wants something to change. While it’s hard for parents to watch their children feel around in the dark, this kind of independent decision-making is an important part of development.

Lead with curiosity instead of concern as much as possible here. You can ask him about his feelings about himself or his eating habits but try to focus more on asking him about who he is, what he wants and what’s going on in his life. As he spreads his wings in college, it will help him to understand how an adult solves a problem. That problem could be as complex as addressing hair loss with a professional, or as simple as “how do I make dinner for myself?”

Dear Eric: I was surprised by your response to “Not the Girlfriend” who wanted the man she described as her boyfriend to, in words, ask her to be his girlfriend (assuming that represents exclusivity). They’ve been dating for six weeks, and he has told her he loves her.

I’m quite old, but don’t think I’m so old-fashioned in thinking that six weeks into a relationship is a bit too soon to be trying to nail things down. She didn’t mention how often they see each other but at six weeks you’re really just getting to know someone. Good relationships take time. And she’s already frustrated by the situation. I know there have been successful relationships that worked right from the get-go, but they’re rare.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to know a dating partner’s level of interest/seriousness. But I wonder what her rush is.

Maybe the guy thinks of her as his girlfriend without explicitly saying so. After all, he’s already said he loves her.

By the way, at six weeks, even sooner, you can certainly feel “in love” but at that stage you’re filling in the aspects that you still don’t know about your love interest with qualities you imagine are true.

— Reader

Dear Reader: I’m very grateful for this letter. It made me think about the original letter in a new way — and, not for nothing, made me ruminate for a while on the nature of love, which is always a very nice way to spend one’s time. I agree with you.

Venus (the planet of love and relationships) moves into the thrusting, dynamic and passionate sign of Aries from March 6 to the 30.

Expect three weeks of full-on flirtation, sizzling sexual chemistry, direct and forthright declarations of passion, and serious attraction vibes.

You won’t be left wondering who is into you, it will be right there in front of you. Of course, this might be someone you’re really not expecting — and it might shake everything up in your love life realm.

Attraction is an irresistible force… not much can get in its way. Let’s use the tarot cards to give you a clue about what (or who) might be coming along to rock your world during this transit.

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Aries

March 21 to April 20

Tarot card for Aries for this week: Ace of Cups

Meaning: Venus moving into your own sign is a powerful love injection to your relationship realm. The Ace of Cups reveals you are going to meet someone new (possibly a Water sign — Pisces, Cancer or Scorpio) and feel an immediate attraction.

This could be ‘the one’, so if you’re free to pursue it then do so full force. If you’re not, then maybe this is true friendship or just of those bittersweet ‘could have been’ moments. Fertility is also a factor of this card so if that’s on your agenda, now is a good time! If it’s not, be extra careful!

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Taurus

April 21 to May 21

Tarot card for Taurus for this week: Eight of Wands

Meaning: You are ruled over by Venus so your love life always gets a nice kickback when the planet moves signs. And boy will this one work hard for you! Aries energy is direct, passionate and lustful, and the Eight of Wands is a massive communication card, so expect to hear just how many folk are attracted to you, and how intensely they feel. You might even find yourself being fought over, or part of a love triangle.

You will be flirting and getting lovely compliments all month long and it will really boost your confidence, which in turn attracts even more attention. Revel in this, enjoy it. If you’re single, I don’t think you will be by the time Venus moves on again!

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Gemini

May 22 to June 21

Tarot card for Gemini for this week: Seven of Swords

Meaning: Jealousy is a strange creature, lurking and slinking and then rearing its ugly head from the shadows in passive aggressive ways. Be on the look out for it this Venus in Aries, Gemini, both from those around you and maybe even within your own self.

Don’t let any temptations, unrequited attractions or unfair behaviours permeate your upbeat vibe and mood. Don’t wander down eerie pathways with folk you don’t trust. Stick to the straight and narrow. It feels like people are jealous of your powers of attraction. Let them be. It’s actually a compliment.

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Cancer

June 22 to July 23

Tarot card for Cancer for this week: The World

Meaning: This is going to be a powerful transit for you, Cancer, so tune in. Venus in Aries stirs up The World for you, so a chapter is closing, a goal has been reached, a lesson learned, a new dynamic activated that will lead to relationship changes.

Might be a new suitor, possibly a Capricorn, maybe linked to overseas. Might be a trip that you book that is going to be the gateway to a new era in your love life. Might be the end of a phase of stagnation or challenge that leads you, with new lessons and habits on board, to smooth seas and plain sailing. Expect a transition, closure of something and the beginning of something else (better).

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Leo

July 24 to August 23

Tarot card for Leo for this week: Nine of Swords

Meaning: Venus in Aries is super direct, forthright, honest and transparent. You will be wearing your heart on your sleeve, even if you try to be subtle, and it might make you feel a little bit vulnerable somehow, like your inner worries or self-limiting beliefs are on show. Talk about your fears in relationships. Get them out on the table with someone you trust and process them. Find root causes and evidence, or even debunk them!

We all carry baggage and the Nine of Swords wants you to use the honest energy of this transit to put yours down, filter through it, and lighten the mental or soul load you’re carrying. Move ahead lighter, brighter and with your confidence restored.

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Virgo

August 24 to September 23

Tarot card for Virgo for this week: The Hierophant

Meaning: You know, this card can suggest engagement, marriage, very deep commitment in love readings, so someone may be getting down on one knee this Venus in Aries season! But something steadfast, lasting, and true is brewing in your love life, whatever situation you’re in.

Question how much you want what you’ve got because it can be yours forever if it’s what you truly want. If you’re single, this card can indicate clever, respected Taureans, a person of status who is admired by all. You will feel safe, protected, and reassured in their presence and this is like catnip to you! All in all, a very happy love life phase awaits you.

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Libra

September 24 to October 23

Tarot card for Libra for this week: Three of Wands

Meaning: Luck is going to play a massive factor in the success of your love life this Venus (your ruling planet) in Aries (your sister sign). The cosmic stars are aligning just for you! So, make a wish and then pay attention to the signs, omens and unseen forces swirling around you. Coincidences, chance encounters, de ja vu moments and lucid dreams will all feature to help bring you towards your wish.

If you’re single, look out for Fire signs (Leo, Aries, Sagittarius) and maybe something linked to luck or fortune being a part of your first meeting. Cupid has plans for you and is pulling strings — please notice his good work!

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Scorpio

October 24 to November 22

Tarot card for Scorpio for this week: King of Wands

Meaning: Aries is a very ambitious star sign (ruled by Mars, as your sign once was, before Pluto was discovered). So, you’re feeling bold and purposeful about your love life, you know what — or who — you want and you’re going to make that happen. No games or dilly dallying, you’re saying it straight and you’re asking the questions you want answered.

Your purposefulness is attractive, charismatic, and you will get the results you hope for, so be confident. Look out for Fire signs (Leo, Aries or Sagittarius) who match your direct, passionate energy because you could be forging a ‘power couple’ dynamic with the right person.

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Sagittarius

November 23 to December 21

Tarot card for Sagittarius for this week: Temperance

Meaning: Temperance is your sign’s card in the tarot arcana so this is a strong Venus in Aries transit for speaking up, saying how it is, asking for what you want to happen, and getting it! Be honest. Be upfront.

Things might’ve felt uncertain or up in the air in your closest relationship recently, or if you’re single then maybe you’ve felt unsettled and like you’re seeking an anchor or steadying presence in your life. Grounding and stability await you, with the right person. You can make a home in the right relationship, feeling secure but not trapped (a key balance for your freedom-loving sign). Look out for fellow Sagittarians too — the attraction will feel powerful.

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Capricorn

December 22 to January 21

Tarot card for Capricorn for this week: Three of Swords

Meaning: Venus in Aries is going to be revealing, enlightening and healing for you, Capricorn. If you’re nursing a broken heart, then expect to feel really different — and better — over the coming three weeks, like you’re surgically removing the painful and tender parts. If you’re doing good, don’t worry, this Three of Swords is likely to relate to an old wound, maybe a betrayal that has always say heavily with you.

Something will shift, be revealed, or get said, that will cast new light on things, and possibly vindicate or relieve you of the weight you’ve carried here. Maybe you drop an outdated self-limiting belief about yourself in relationships. An echo will emerge, remind you, and make it all better somehow. Healing is your theme.

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Aquarius

January 22 to February 19

Tarot card for Aquarius for this week: The Chariot

Meaning: Venus in Aries is direct and dynamic, just like the forceful, purposeful Chariot. Journeys, trips, holidays and location expansions or moves are also well starred with this card so maybe you fall (deeper) in love on the move this March. A Cancerian lover could also be on the cards, possibly someone you meet on a journey, so keep your eyes peeled on the daily commute or routine!

Things are happening, stuff is moving forward, and energy is swirling around your love life, in a good way. You know what you want and you’re ready to invest and commit to bring that to your realm. No more doubts, second-guessing, or games.

Head here for everything you need to know about being an Aquarius

Pisces

February 20 to March 20

Tarot card for Pisces for this week: Death

Meaning: Venus in Aries is going to reveal the fault lines, the fading or false energies around you, and the connections you need to sever ties from once and for all. Goodbye any and all lingering exes, situationships, unrequited dalliances, and hello to new, powerful, loving, strong energy and attractions.

A Scorpio might enter your life and send your mind and heart spinning, but either way a new attraction will certainly emerge — maybe even with the one you’re with (if you’re happily attached) that heralds a new era. It feels like everything has changed, for the better, and it truly will this Venus in Aries season. Get ready for transformation.

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Dear Eric: I’m 65 and have been retired for the past two years. To stay active, I went to work as a personal driver for a very wealthy man. I’m salaried, so when he travels (on average one week a month) I still get paid. It’s really not about the money; I enjoy the position.

What I don’t like is getting the schedule on Friday (for my personal planning purposes). Often the schedule drastically changes usually with little notice, sometimes the same day.

I have had several conversations with him about being more transparent, so I may plan my time off. Several times I changed plans to accommodate him.

I asked him to please update the schedule as soon as he makes plans. His response is for me to inform his assistant. I spoke to his assistant who told me she updates the calendar immediately and then it’s added to my calendar, which may take a day or two.

I asked him to send the updates directly to me since I’m the one who is responsible for driving him. His response was “I don’t know how to add to the driving calendar.”

I told him to text me the information and I’ll add it to the calendar. He said he would, but he says a lot of stuff and never follows through. What can you add to assist in this issue?

— Driver Being Driven Nuts

Dear Driver: One option is to ask his assistant to give you access to the main calendar that updates immediately, so that you can make plans more quickly. I’m not sure whether this is feasible — perhaps he has things on there that he doesn’t need you to see. But it can’t hurt to ask her.

Because he has a driver and an assistant — and probably other staff — it sounds like he wants to offload a lot of the logistics of his life. So, asking him to do more communicating about something he purposefully doesn’t want to be involved in may be a nonstarter for him.

If you can’t get access to the main calendar, you may have to decide whether this is still a job that works for your life. It may be that you want more control over your own schedule and this isn’t a job that allows for that. It’s fine to say this was a great opportunity that you enjoyed for a time, but now you want your time back.

Dear Eric: My husband and I are in the same situation as “Left at Home,” who struggled with envy about her husband’s work trips.

My husband has a job he dislikes, but it is his own business, and he can’t leave it until he retires. I travel occasionally for work. When I travel, I stay at nicer hotels, eat at nicer restaurants and sometimes do interesting things, but I’d rather not travel for work anymore.

To my husband, my travel is exciting and he feels envious. Left at Home said that her husband tells her he doesn’t want to go on the trips anymore but then tells her about all the good food and fun things that were planned for them. She thinks he is disingenuous and feels like the trips and experiences are distancing her from him.

I believe her husband. I don’t like traveling anymore. I face long flight delays and cancellations. Getting up at 3 a.m. to make a flight. Spending nights alone in hotels, missing my husband and my family. Long drives in unfamiliar places often late at night because my flight was delayed. Long meaningless meetings.

Yes, I come home and tell him that I had an interesting site visit, or that I ate some wonderful food at a unique restaurant, but I do that because I want to share my experiences with the person I love. I also share the bad experiences, but he also thinks I’m being disingenuous. Believe me, I’m not. I’d rather not travel anymore. It isn’t glamorous and exciting.

I hope she gives him the benefit of the doubt and stops giving him a hard time. If he needs the job and the job comes with travel, then she should accept it gracefully and find other things to do, as you recommended.